Change Your Thinking

• Memories are myths
• Question behaviour not intention
• People either cry for help or speak from love
• All emotional pain is attached to loss
• Loss is a construct – a skewed version of transformation
• Choose empowering meanings
• What’s a more empowering way of looking at this?
• People tend to be whatever you make them
• Whatever you look for you will find
• Do you want to be right or do you want to be fulfilled?
• Anger comes from a feeling of loss
• What did you lose?
• Did you really lose it?
• What are you missing as a result of your loss?
• What meaning are you making from the perceived loss?
• Change your meanings and actions
• Focus on where you want to go, you can’t drive forwards looking in the rear view mirror – The future will look like the past and you’ll crash
• Focus on what you want and you’ll get more of it, focus on your fear, you’ll get more of that
• Faith is understanding the seasons of life
• Some people freeze in the winter and others go skiing
• Most people overestimate what can be done in a year and underestimate what they can do in decade
• The world moves for those who never give up and faith
• If I feel bad people will respect my sad story and I’ll feel good!
• To change your state your change the meaning
• The way you use your body determines the way you feel
• Emotion is created by motion – so move and loosen your mind
• Would you go and see a bad film at the cinema over and over again? Well why do that with your current movie about life?
• A coward dies a thousand deaths
• The questions you ask determine what you focus on
• Your questions are based on your beliefs
• What else could this mean?
• Do I know everything there is to know about this now?
• Anger, Rage, Fear, Hate,Guilt, Worry, Upset, Frustration – what are the messages? Emotional messages? CTA’s!
• Change your actions! DO SOMETHING! What is the message my emotions are trying to give me here?
• Ignore them, endure them??? LEARN FROM THEM AND UTILISE THEM? CHANGE THE MEANING FIRST! It will transform it!
• Change your perception and/or your actions
• Changer your words – use Transformational Vocabulary and softeners -i.e A little bit
• Acknowledge and appreciate your emotions/message
• Get incredibly curious as to what the message is?
• What is the real message this emotion is giving me?
• Get yourself to feel reassured that you can deal with this emotion.
• Remember a time when you dealt with this emotion successfully in the past.
• Don’t call it depression – call it a little bit down
• Depression’s message is that you need to reset your priorities – you feel out of control.
• Some of us have blanked out the good memories of the past. Forget the things that are unhelpful and remember the things that are good